May 6, 2010
I was thinking the other day, why do people get married? I mean seriously? I want children one day, don't get me wrong. Nothing warms my heart up more than visioning a little me-he or me-she running around. Period.
But here is the ticker....
Do I really want to be with the same woman for the rest of my life? Now many of you can ask me the same tired questions and give me the same tired comments.
"You haven't found the person you love yet." "When you meet that right person you'll know." "Don't you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who will be there for you?"
I have a girlfriend who I do indeed in fact love. 100% Do I want to marry her? Do I want to sign over half my hard earned possessions to her? Do I want her to take my last name?
And the cool thing is, she knows it. I have straight up told her marriage isn't for me. She is fine with that.
I know so many girls who I see who are dying to get married. Just to get married. Girls I went to high school with, get pregnant, then get married. Girls get married then get pregnant. But in the end they are 25, knocked up and sad as hell.
Now, I have nothing against marriage, at all, it you want to do it, do it.
I just like to have the thought in my mind instead of waking up to the same body each morning, I have no limits. I can have a different girl every night, engage in threesomes, hell, if I can ever swing it, a foursome!, I can have a girl move in with me, go through a nasty break-up and lose NOTHING!!!
What's not to like about that?
I've got buddies who cheat on their wives, go through divorces, ruin their lives, and become shriveled up shells of men they used to be. The marriage literally sucked the life out of them.
Divorce lawyers are scum. Who are you to say that a housewife can take half of a man's possessions when all she has done is sit at home in the house he paid for, do a little cleaning, do a little cooking and watch a little QVC and be awarded 50%. Ladies, it goes both ways, don't hate me. Dudes do this too ;) (hopefully not the QVC thing)
The divorce rate is what? Like 50% in the US? So if two of you read this, one of you will get a divorce, statistically. WTF? WTF is that?
Guys, here's some advice for you, if you're about to get married and are having any second thoughts, don't do it. True, your soon to be ex-fiancé will be royally pissed at you, she might even throw a shoe at you. But you're saving a lifetime of hurt, angst, money, and probably years on your life.
We all have sexual impluses, thoughts, and feelings. We have the power to control, supress, and not act on them, if we choose. A wedding ring on your finger prohibits you from acting on your basic human instincts, society has made us feel shameful of these thoughts and impluses. Little girls are put in front of TV's, watch Disney movies and are made to believe that a Price Charming is out there for them to be swept off their feet. We (society, Southern Pines being the conservative area it is.) has made for us to think sex is bad. VERRRRY bad. No sex if you're not married, no sex with multiple partners, and God forbid, nothing but missionary.
I enjoy living the life of a bachelor. (Although I am in a monogamous relationship currently) There is nothing better than having a "black book" well it's now the Verizon Droid, but you get the picture. Dating is awesome. Ladies I love you, and life is good.