"What are you willing to sacrifice?" by What do parents think?

What are you willing to sacrifice?

Blog: What do parents think?

March 30, 2010

During my morning ritual today of reading the local newspapers online I came across something that made my stomach turn. While reading the Fayetteville Observer I read where a man was charged with sexual assault on a five year old. That not being the worst of it his wife was running a “daycare” out of her home….almost like a candy store for this man. Being a parent of a three year old little girl I understand times are hard and daycare is outrageous in some places and sometimes just not finically reasonable and you have to find other ways to accommodate your budget. But why let a registered sex offender have access to your child to save a buck? I did my research before writing this and this was not his first time! And his son who was also living at the address is a registered sex offender! I place the blame in several places one to the wife for allowing children to come into her home with the prior knowledge of her families “preference” and also to the parents for not doing there homework on who they were trusting there child with! I know there are people who are going to say that they may not have had the money to do a background check. I understand that niether do I but I went online and look on the North Carolina Sex Offender Registry and found this man. Also they could have went to thier local law enforcement and asked! They could have pointed them into the right direction. My heart goes out to the familes that this family has destroyed and pray that they can recover.

melinda 3 years, 1 month ago

There is no excuse for a parent to leave there kid with someone they dont know without cheaking them out i was scared to leave my kids with anyone includeing my family cause i was always scared something would happen an i wouldnt be there for them i trust no one with my kids i know in some cases you have to go to work an leave your kids an lets face it daycare is way to high but if you leaveing your kids with strangers do your homework our kids count on us to keep them safe my grandpa molested me for years it gose to show theres sick people everywhere as close as next door in some cases in your own home the libary will let you go online for free so there is no excuse

Ally 3 years, 1 month ago

Have you ever been to a court mandated parenting class? Through my work with prevention and awareness of child abuse, I had the opportunity to sit in on a parenting class. There are parents who have no clue what nurturing a child, protecting a child and loving a child is all about. For whatever reasons or circumstances, that child (or children) were given to these parents. I commend them for following through and trying to do better. However, many parents for whom were blessed with children do not recognize the requirements of being a parent until it is too late. They have only their parents to pattern themselves by and sometimes that is not a good example. There are those, however, who do overcome their circumstances and provide the love and care a child needs. For those who are oblivious to the proper upbringing of a child I encourage them and the community around them to seek education to become a better parent, to prevent and bring awareness to child abuse.

ladylane 3 years, 1 month ago

I don't even like to read stories like this because it makes my stomach sick and I want to do things to this person beyond measures. I know where I would be if this happen to my grand kids my kids are grown. This person cared about nothing but a dollar she is just as sick to have kids in her home. Parents check out where you plan to leave your kids. My son and girlfriend was looking for day for the baby and found one they thought was good I went to check it out my self the owner wasn't even there just one girl with the kids out side I walked right by her and went in side she did not ask me who I was or could she help me. I asked where the owner was gone to run errands I said hell no she will not come here. Went straight to my sons home and told them they would find another day care she is in a good one. Don't take your childs care for granted. If you love your kids you have vibes about where you choose to leave them their safety is worth more than saving a dollar.

wannabeserver 3 years, 1 month ago

my advice,, stop having kids.. if you cannot afford a car payment,, rest assured u cannot afford a baby,, its not cute to see a 16 year old with a baby,, btw, why read news that makes you so upset?