Last evening the local chapter of PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) held its first meeting at the Congregational Church of Pinehurst. It was inspirational to say the least.

I listened to gay and lesbian people who shared their very personal stories of courage, integrity, love and struggle.

I was ashamed as I heard accounts of the abuse these folks have endured. I was also encouraged by stories of love and acceptance that others have received. I am convinced again that they are all my brothers and sisters, and they aren't really different from me -- they simply have a different sexual orientation.

In a day and age when we are cautioned about the dangers of "the gay agenda" and other dire warnings about the destruction of the American family, I think it would be wise for all of us to become better informed. That's the purpose of PFLAG: "Getting to know parents, families and friends of lesbians and gays."

By listening to these wonderful human beings who too often are maligned for being who they are, we can heed the words of Jesus, "Love one another as I have loved you."

There will be a second meeting next month. I invite all my fellow "straights" from the Sandhills to join me there. I think it is time to extend a loving hand that seeks to understand. It's time to withdraw the hand of condemnation and judgment.

Chas Griffin

Seven Lakes